She’s a far right propagandist against queer and liberal people despite being an American Jewish woman. I don’t know how much dumber I can be convinced she is unless she regularly forgets how to breathe

And aids

Leaving to go drink smh

Yeah I don’t need my partners to be friends, but I need them to get along and like each other

Yeah what the hell that just kept getting worse

I moved across the country

Yeah my friends and I picked then for a friend’s birthday and noticed the holiday upon arrival. It was really fun though, and our all woman group felt otherwise safe

Oh shit that sounds really good

Yeah the supreme court only decided free press applies to adult porn access in the late 20th century

I didn’t feel safe in Chicago. But that was more “what the fuck, am I the only sober driver in this city‽” Probably related to being there on st Patrick’s day

I’ve got a friend from Louisiana and the way she describes it is terrifying including lots of murders. She feels so much safer in her blue city in the PNW

I’m fully convinced that rhetoric is manufacturing consent to military style occupation of blue cities.

Which funny enough does happen in rural red areas. When everybody knows everybody there’s incentive not to report crimes.

And yeah I go to Seattle from time to time and once I got used to the graffiti and the occasional unwell/intoxicated homeless person I’ve felt safer there than many parts of red states, even beyond my being queer. People will just tell you stories of horrific crimes from their small town and which people and places to avoid and you’re just like “how do you have enough people to have a bad part of town”

I love this implication that they really can’t comprehend that those of us who oppose it largely don’t use it.

Hell, Nixon shouldn’t’ve been encouraged to resign. He should’ve been impeached, tried, and removed setting a precedent that nobody is above the law and that politicians can be held to standards

A lot of republicans in congress needed to join a community theater instead

Yeah, it’s a physically and emotionally brutal recovery process. I’m grateful I did it, but I also don’t really think you can be fully prepared for it. And if your daughter has an opiate allergy be aware that makes it harder. Idk if I’ve ever been in more physical pain than the first week. You’re exhausted, in pain, may have been off your hormones for a month and your junk looks like a wreck and doesn’t work and you’re terrified of if it’s going to heal right. And much like how fully healing is long and slow, so is getting through the difficult part.

And yeah I get where you’re coming from and assume you’re pushing to help her become more functional if possible. And while I understand your fears and worries relating to your involvement, it’s good that the doctors won’t talk to you directly.

Idk about Montreal, but in the US I needed three letters of recommendation to get insurance to pay for surgery (surgeons need 1-3 depending): an endocrinologist/primary care physician saying I’ve been on hormones for at least a year, a psychiatric professional saying that I was fit to make the decision, and a therapist (I think it had to be one I hadn’t seen before) to say that I’d seriously thought it through and understood what it entailed. That’s about as thorough as it can and should be.

But in general by making sure she’s talked to people who’ve been through it and with a therapist that says she’s prepared for it, it should be something she can handle. If the surgeon is wrong for her there are others though it’ll be harder. It’s a difficult balance of speed, quality, and availability and yeah it’s better for her to figure out her path and what mental work she’ll need to do sooner rather than towards the end of a waitlist

Yeah, I’d recommend looking into the surgeon’s reputation, (and have her look at their work). I actually was fortunate enough to see my surgeon’s work in person beforehand, which was helpful, but absolutely not necessary.

Over on reddit there’s a trans_surgeries subreddit that I used to get realistic expectations and my ex used to read it to figure out how best to support me. I can’t however give it a full throated recommendation as it’s absolutely where dysphoria goes to become dysmorphia. My ex would get frustrated with how many people over there passed perfectly for cis and would insist they need more FFS or something.

In general though, if your daughter is able IRL trans community is great, especially with people further along in transition. And talking to people irl and online who have been through the procedures she wants (ideally at various stages) is great.

Naughty things like acknowledging that they’re the exact sort of governmental overreach and violence our declaration of independence had a problem with? Stuff like acknowledging that they’re tyrannical morons engaging in violence against the common people? Or like acknowledging that they all belong in prison?

To the detractors, this experiment is based off one done in Australia, and it can have good results. Some may decide they actually don’t need to drive as much and start using more public transit, and others will be able to more precisely point to pain points with not using a car.

Yes, they need more transit oriented development and better transit access, but this should be able to help