You can only decide what you yourself do. Yep that’s one of those truths that you only get once you experience it. The saying I personally use is that… drinking poison one.

But about kids though? Those you have to decide for. It’s hard to explain until you’ve had one. They have autonomy, yes, and it’s absolutely great to let them try and fail half an hour to put on shoes, but at several points throughout the day you absolutely need to decide what they do.

This makes many people slip into educational and fostering roles here and there. Many boomers got drunk with power when it was their turn, but overall they improved on the whole beating kids until they obey or whatever