Married in '91. Wore mine for the first few years, then took it off on a jobsite to wash my hands, left it on the sideboard of the sink and it was taken. No big deal, it was made out of a 10 dollar length of silver. Eh. My husband lost his a few years later, so we decided to not bother to replace them.
The metal isn’t what’s kept us together for 35 years…
as a woman (and maybe this is more of a thing in the Southern US), I find it’s important to wear a ring to signal to men that I’m not available (not that this is like foolproof, there are men who will still transgress those boundaries, but … it feels like a kind of social shield for sure)
and it is also important to wear both the engagement and the wedding ring together - conservative culture is weirdly catty about that
The fact that I know you mean the South of the United States of America exactly because you did not say the country annoys me so much. Sorry for the off topic rant.
ah good point, I edited it to add the country. It’s true there is a US-centrism both in the mindsets of Americans, but also online in general (at least in English speaking spaces), so it does become a kind of “default place” that way
Yeah, I’m not the kind of woman that men would hit up on (too butch…) and now of course I’m old and weathered and other than the really old guys that appreciate someone that can tune up their own car (I have had men decades older than I am, come up to me and shake my hand when working on the car in the driveway… go figure!) no one looks twice at me. What I wear also doesn’t help. LOL!
Married in '91. Wore mine for the first few years, then took it off on a jobsite to wash my hands, left it on the sideboard of the sink and it was taken. No big deal, it was made out of a 10 dollar length of silver. Eh. My husband lost his a few years later, so we decided to not bother to replace them.
The metal isn’t what’s kept us together for 35 years…
as a woman (and maybe this is more of a thing in the Southern US), I find it’s important to wear a ring to signal to men that I’m not available (not that this is like foolproof, there are men who will still transgress those boundaries, but … it feels like a kind of social shield for sure)
and it is also important to wear both the engagement and the wedding ring together - conservative culture is weirdly catty about that
The fact that I know you mean the South of the United States of America exactly because you did not say the country annoys me so much. Sorry for the off topic rant.
ah good point, I edited it to add the country. It’s true there is a US-centrism both in the mindsets of Americans, but also online in general (at least in English speaking spaces), so it does become a kind of “default place” that way
yay imperialism 🫠
Yeah, I’m not the kind of woman that men would hit up on (too butch…) and now of course I’m old and weathered and other than the really old guys that appreciate someone that can tune up their own car (I have had men decades older than I am, come up to me and shake my hand when working on the car in the driveway… go figure!) no one looks twice at me. What I wear also doesn’t help. LOL!