Children who grew up teaching themselves because nobody had time to teach them often become adults who are extraordinarily competent and quietly resentful

OldQWERTYbastard@lemmy.world · 16 days ago

Children who grew up teaching themselves because nobody had time to teach them often become adults who are extraordinarily competent and quietly resentful

Monument@lemmy.sdf.org · 16 days ago

Grew up teaching myself, except that my childhood was traumatic. Narcissists, drug users, abandonment, etc. Grew up expecting harm from others unless I gave them what they want. Also highly sensitive to the idea of fairness and perceived rejection (neurodivergence or trauma responses).

Service top. In control, but doing what others want. Needs reassurance and an expression of desire while in control of other people.
Partner selection is a pain in the ass.

Children who grew up teaching themselves because nobody had time to teach them often become adults who are extraordinarily competent and quietly resentful

Children who grew up teaching themselves because nobody had time to teach them often become adults who are extraordinarily competent and quietly resentful

Children who grew up teaching themselves because nobody had time to teach them often become adults who are extraordinarily competent and quietly resentful that their independence was born from neglect rather than choice