A little maybe, but not much.
I’ve seen people say they left reddit to join Lemmy because of the toxic users. To each their own, but I personally think Lemmings aren’t much better. Some people over here can’t understand that sensitive questions can be asked without bad intent. People are way too defensive about their opinions.
It is disappointing, but it’s the better option.
Haven’t been there meaningfully in years, but when I was there regularly if I logged in and saw I had a bunch of new comments I’d have a mini panic attack. Did I say something clever or something stupid and get eviscerated?
I rarely get the number of comments here that I got there, but when I do get them they’re almost never toxic like the ones I got at reddit were, even when they are critical or disagreeing.
…I do still get a mini panic attack when I see I have a bunch of unread comments though. It’s less intense though as Lemmy seems to be slowly curing me of that reaction.
Same! Seeing replies on Reddit was always a coin flip. Are people happy or angry? Do I even want to click and find out?
Lemmy doesn’t dogpile the way Reddit did. I’m not anxious about people disagreeing with me on here, because even if they do, they’re more civil about it. They’ll bring up points to disagree on, which is fair and adds to discussion. Meanwhile on Reddit, you’ll more likely get ad hominem attacks that contribute nothing meaningful and seemingly only serve to make people feel bad for posting/commenting in the first place.
It does. A bunch of us just happen to agree a lot more and the entire place is much smaller, so it doesn’t come up as often. It’s human psychology, people do this by default. Call me a cynic but there’s no place or case on Earth where that doesn’t happen in one way or another and it damn sure does here.
The coin flip was the reason I left Reddit more than anything else. I started noticing some irate comments for simple opinion stuff. Then one comment I made got a huge reaction of ‘that never happened, you fucking suck, kill yourself,’ in a much longer form. I was so flabbergasted that I finally gave up on Reddit in that moment. Twelve years of happily using that site slowly fell apart over the course of a few months.
If there’s a dogpile here, it usually just earns the user a -25 score on the comment and many blocks, usually just one or two comments push back, which can spiral out into a chain of dozens of replies, and a ban only if the user keeps being obnoxious or clearly breaks rules.
As an example, look at this political comment I made the other day, the first level replies were of sound quality, then in the second level someone decides to be the grammar police and immediately the nested conversation turns to a squabble that’s irrelevant, stupid, and not worth reading. Only the first level replies reach my inbox. My point is that good quality contributions get mostly decent quality comments back (including both praise and constructive criticism), while ragebait and flamebait begets a flame war.
There’s always going to be sad people who thrive on messing with others. I don’t think any social platform can avoid this problem, but it’s good that you’re finding a way to moderate your reaction.
I love it when I have a bunch of notifications, dopamine hit!