I’m really sorry, OP. I think a lot of people say things like this because they simply can’t identify you and don’t want to bother to try. On one hand, there is wisdom in figuring out how to not let your trauma run your life. But doing it this way (how most people seem to react) is offensive. I agree that like the one person said, they are repeating the same thing their parents did to them.
Your struggles are real, OP. It’s ok to hurt. It’s ok to struggle with these sorts of things. The difficult part is actually figuring out how to do the moving forward. Most people aren’t equipped to help you do that part to be fair…you have to recognize the limitations of these relationships. I’m not qualified either and quite frankly I don’t know who is. Therapists are supposed to, but I don’t even know what they can do anymore.
Sorry that this is a bit of a rambling non comment. But I just want to say that I understand, OP. You are valid. And I hope you find your way in the world.
I’m really sorry, OP. I think a lot of people say things like this because they simply can’t identify you and don’t want to bother to try. On one hand, there is wisdom in figuring out how to not let your trauma run your life. But doing it this way (how most people seem to react) is offensive. I agree that like the one person said, they are repeating the same thing their parents did to them.
Your struggles are real, OP. It’s ok to hurt. It’s ok to struggle with these sorts of things. The difficult part is actually figuring out how to do the moving forward. Most people aren’t equipped to help you do that part to be fair…you have to recognize the limitations of these relationships. I’m not qualified either and quite frankly I don’t know who is. Therapists are supposed to, but I don’t even know what they can do anymore.
Sorry that this is a bit of a rambling non comment. But I just want to say that I understand, OP. You are valid. And I hope you find your way in the world.