• LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zoneOP
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    2 days ago

    I’m certain he’s a dv abuser, he shows classic warning signs. I know what you mean when you say about the mask like face that doesn’t go to the eyes.

    When you looked into his eyes what could you see?

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      1 day ago

      He was married and had kids. He never showed any violent tendencies and was physically very non-imposing. I always assumed that manipulation and mental games were his primary tools, but one can never really know.

      His eyes seemed pretty normal, but I remember that they were always moving. He wouldn’t look you straight into eyes for more than a second or two.

      • LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zoneOP
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        1 day ago

        Yep not all abusers are violent and certainly not outside the home. Tbh the extent of the game playing was making me wonder if he had anti social personality disorder (psychopathy). People can often tell from the eyes eg Ted Bundy