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  • You ever wonder why people do small talk? It’s for situations like this.

    Learn to do small talk. Practice in… I dunno, the grocery store checkout, your elderly neighbor, someone in the diner. Just 5-10 second conversations. “hi there / warm out, isn’t it? / yeah, how about them (sports team)? / yeah, all right!” Bland stuff. If you don’t know what to say, watch other people and write things down.

    You may think this is hard as an introvert, but in fact it’s easy bc you don’t have to think about what to say. It’s easy to develop simple “scripts” that you play out. Like there’s this person at the gym, and every time I go we’re like “hey what’s up? / not much what’s up with you? / just another day in paradise! / all right!” Every freakin time.

    It may sound crazy to do these things, but it lets people know you’re not stuck-up or dangerous. Anyway, after you’re better at small talk, it’s easier to get to know someone you really want to know more about. Like, after you establish an acquaintanceship you can be like “oh, that (object they’re holding) reminds me of (relative of yours), they got one in (mildly interesting location).” Just practice this kind of thing in general, and you’ll be better prepared when you meet someone you’re really interested in.

    I used to be terrible at this, luckily my BFF was amazing at it and I learned by observation.