While there might be an interesting philosophical and psychological debate to be had over the topic of being transracial, the problem with the debate is that most people who propose it are doing so in bad faith, as a gotcha, and that doesn’t lead to any meaningful discussion. I think that’s why it gets dismissed so quickly. I’m not sure if you’re one of those people.

The way I start to think about it is, we often conflate race with cultural identity, just as people conflate gender identity and sexual preference, so separating those might be a starting point. Racially, my family is Northern European white (Scottish and German with a smattering of French and Scandinavian) but culturally, my family was poor Scottish people who where kicked out and sent to Ireland before becoming immigrants who moved to America and settled in Appalachia 250+ years ago where they lived as farmers until my grandparents generation. So culturally I’d identify as Scots-Irish historically with modern Appalachian US heritage.

I’m not really sure where this thought experiment goes next and how that ties to gender, someone much smarter than me might be able to make sense of my ramblings. Either way, I don’t want to just dismiss what you have to say but since you have no history other than this post I can’t be sure you are not a bad actor looking for a gotcha.

I like to have a drink or two but wouldn’t say dates go smoother with a drink. It depends on the people and the location.

Dinner at a nice place, sure, one or two alcoholic drinks with dinner is common but absolutely not necessary. Going to a coffee shop or some other cafe type place for lunch, I wouldn’t drink alcohol in a situation like that. You could do a more active date, like hike or go to a local museum or zoo. Some people like to get a drink after a hike but again it’s not necessary to drink alcohol.

I always liked to do the more active date and then maybe a meal after and sometimes that meal will involve alcohol but I live in a bigger city so I can get a taxi or ride share if I need it.