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Cake day: September 19th, 2025

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  • I’m also old, and often confused, but less about this one, because of personal experience.

    The world is shifting quickly away from “almost everyone adheres to gender norms” to “what’s wrong with people being perceived the way they’d like to be?”

    It’s about individual expression of self. The bits and bobs that people have under their clothes may have zero correlation with what their traditionally recognized appearance is.

    If someone is lost or a threat, it makes more sense to look for them based on how they present themselves in public, and not how they look naked. (Which can be ambiguous, too.)

    Your recognizing your own confusion is a good thing. It means that you are aware that there are still things you need to learn. You’re all right.







  • When someone disagrees with you, you have the opportunity to more clearly define what you think. This might mean changing your mind to a greater or lesser degree; it could mean understanding more completely why you hold the view you already have. If the votes show that a lot of people disagree with you, well, conventional wisdom is often enough not very wise.

    In my experience, fediverse people have been more reasonable than reddit people - but you’re going to find petulant children on any public forum.