Hey, a fellow Protomen fan! There’s literally dozens of us

Maybe I’m misunderstanding then.

My interpretation of the comic is that the woman’s first instinct was to feign interest to prevent any toxic behavior being directed to her. Then the man told her to disregard that and simply reject him which she does, then her instinct is proven right.

That to me signifies that she did not feel safe to reject him.

The way I understood your argument is that this fear of rejecting a man from panel 1, or assuming a bad reaction is “sexist” because “Men are not a monolith”. I’m not sure this is appropriate to the point the comic is trying to make.

If you think that the appropriate answer to “women feel scared to reject men because of common toxic behavior” is “but its not all men”… I’m sorry to call you out but you’re part of the problem.

Instead of being defensive, try to see it from their point of view and accept that something is messed up where a lot of men are like this. And I don’t agree that women that are rejected react like this. Quite the opposite actually.

It’s an undeniable reality that women get unsolicited advances from men multiple times a day, whereas the opposite is not true.

I understand your point, but it does not matter whether men are panel 1 or 3, when the interaction is short you can’t tell which reaction it will be. The problem is that panel 3 men exist at all, and that society normalizes it to be like that. “Men will be men” and all that is the problem. I totally get why women would be guarded because of it. Our job as men is to point out toxic behavior when it happens. That’s it.

The company was recently sued for creating a platform using almost exclusively child labor

The problem is while their target audience is kids, it is heavily monetized and created a market and economy around child created content. It is also impossible to moderate and became a cesspool of predators.

The game itself is comprised of an infinite number of mini games you can try, most of them created by children. Some of them are of a sexual nature and not safe for kids. This makes it really easy for a predator to set up environments where they can groom children.

The players can buy robux with real money and spend this to advertise the games they create, or buy customization items or game passes. They also earn robux when people play their games to incentivize them to create more content. Because of this the company is being sued for essentially child labor, where all their profits revolve around child created games

When I was younger I would also play modded games and create content. I dont think there’s anything wrong with that. But the fact that the game monetized it to such an extent is wrong in my opinion. With the predator problem as well it makes it a really unsafe playform for children. As a parent I would never let my children play this.

I think it’s good that you gave it a name, it’s the first step towards acknowledging that it’s not rational thought and can be ignored safely. There’s definitely nothing wrong with you in the sense that you’re not crazy, but it sounds like you might have a lot of trauma and CBT should help. But it’s a long process and sometimes its two steps forward, one step back. Just stick with it and see if it improves.

I’m not at all a professional and you don’t have to listen to my advice, but my wife has had a similar issue and she called hers a name too. It helped her a lot over the years to realize how she could turn that voice down. What really helped her though was to cut off her family, as they were the ones that gave her this voice after all. She had a lot of trauma related to family.

Hope that helps, or at least makes you feel better about it. This voice is not shameful. You’re just human and coping with life.