

Not a leap. I’m basing my comment on the replies from OP that said that he is probably gonna divorce his wife — gigantic red flag, looking for dating advice not having being done with the previous relationship, but maybe that’s just me — because they were highly independent, drifted apart and wife leaving wasn’t even a lifestyle changing event. Maybe OP wouldn’t be divorcing if he considered women as something other than a source of romantic and sexual exchange separate from company, friendship and sharing a lifestyle. I’m just saying, OP sounds very sus.
Not the issue here. It seems like OP wants a sexual toy for intimacy. Definitely don’t go looking for that type of relationship in friend and hobby spaces. But most of my friend’s relationships came out of friendships built on said social circles. My longest relationship ever (now ended for other reasons) came from a videogaming club, a friend of a friend.