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Cake day: August 25th, 2023

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  • i grew up in the state.

    it’s honestly not so bad, most people are reasonable and not entirely insane. at least any more so than the rest of the USA. i’ve traveled all over the country and seen that 1. most places here are, for all their differences, pretty similar and 2. an oddly large number of people will, without any irony at all, ask dumb as shit questions like “oh you guys have houses? i thought they still lived in tipis there…”, which is part of what compels me to clear up the image that Oklahoma is just some backwater. OKC and Tulsa are both larger cities than New Orleans, and by a non-insignificant population count too.

    it’s just one of those states where the republicans have a gerrymandered, fascist hold on the government and have for a long time. they win virtually every single election at every level in Oklahoma and control the entire state government, all appointments are basically made solely by the republican party here. they control what does and doesn’t pass the legislature. yet, demographically, the republicans do not have nearly the super-majority that would justify this power. we’ve been prisoners of y’al-qaeda for basically the entire history of the state. and this isn’t by any long shot the only state like this, it just might be one of the worst. they test their shitty fucking playbooks and “go-fuck-yourself-with-razorblades” laws out on us because it is a large market/population. a century and a half of being the american fascist guinea pigs has led us to be one of the civil societies here in the US that is in the most disrepair. we’re near bottom or dead last for virtually any metric of societal health when compared to other states.

    don’t hate these people please, not saying you are but it’s a common sentiment. i fucking despised the south and would belittle southerners when i was a naive teen bc of my resentment for their racism and general ethos. a lot of them are fucked up, but for a large number of them, they are victims too.


  • This is a strawman argument, though. Sure, that can and does happen, but it isn’t the existence of spaces like Tea that is problematic, it is the holistic relationship between men and women in our society, generally. Further, I’m clearly not saying opposing Tea is inherently misogyny. It is a very particular kind of reaction that I am talking about, and you know this.

    Tea itself really isn’t any worse than any other forum. You could have the same thing happen to a man on other platforms, there is nothing unique about Tea in that capacity and it is disingenuous to levy that criticism against the platform in isolation. People dislike it because they have a weird caricature of women in their head and assume every person on this app must have been a gossip or an evil person, yet there is no real basis for that claim other than the fact the audience is mainly women. Hence, the “misogyny,” that you seem to not really have the prior life experience to see. You can look through my profile here. I’ve said plenty in support of men’s rights and men’s issues as well, I’m really not rabidly in coalition for a particular gender’s rights or anything. I’m just calling it as I see it and the reaction to Tea on the web is largely sexist.

    No one said false accusations aren’t real or that opposing them makes you a misogynist. You’re being intentionally obtuse and conflating a critique of people’s treatment of women in public discourse with a critique of apps such as these generally to make it seem absurd to point out how sexist some of the reaction to Tea has been. Mostly because I think you saw the word “misogyny” thrown out and for some reason took it as a personal insult or something. I think most people would reflect upon that and I’d hope you would too.

    I probably won’t further respond because I’m getting the idea honest discourse and dialectic isn’t your goal here.




  • saw this happening here, saw it happening in reddit threads on the topic, saw it all over the media cycle in the comments.

    i agree, people’s visceral backlash against this app is steeped in a deep misogyny. most of these comments have a vapid absence of any sort of even basic recognition towards these women as people. talking about them like they’re abstract figures or test subjects up in here.

    watching people take somewhat valid privacy concerns as an excuse to let loose their most toxic feelings towards women used to be the sort of thing only losers or emboldened megalomaniacs did in public, even just a decade ago.

    in the past years i’ve just seen all my peers, regardless of political affiliation, manipulated into a cult of outrage that serves as another hamster wheel upon which capital may spin.

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  • well yeah forwarding your VPN’s ports is a possible leak… that’s the point of opening the ports?

    i think it’s only a privacy risk if you don’t understand the network stack and don’t understand what using port forwarding on a VPN entails so that you can take proper precautions.

    regardless, it’s fair that most users would be at risk just wantonly fucking with settings they don’t understand. probably not a valid justification to limit services but i can see the business rationale.

    anyway not disagreeing with you or anything i had just read the mullvad team disabled port forwarding because they were experiencing distress/PTSD dealing with the administrative and legal issues that arose due to the way some of their user base chose to use the service, and they decided removing port forwarding would be a reasonable way to target and cut down this type of traffic without affecting most users. privacy leaks might have been mentioned somewhere but ig i just hadn’t seen it. not exactly a mullvad expert, myself lol.

    i dont use VPN services like mullvad anymore, though. don’t really trust the big VPN companies and prefer running my own hardware and nodes.


  • even then the degree to which charles babbage was responsible for his machines is somewhat contested.

    even then charles babbage was inventing in an environment that was already highly geared to explore logic as a discipline with many people actively pursuing the same or similar objects of fascination. there are experiments in computation and entire computers far preceding babbage, going so far back as the earliest annals of recorded history.

    a lot of people also don’t understand that babbage’s initial inventions weren’t even autonomous or mechanical/electrical. they weren’t computers in the colloquial, modern sense. at first they were basically just arrays of literal physical drawers, that the user had to physically move objects between, that could represent something akin to modern memory. this was rudimentary even at the time - the classical greeks famously were astute mechanist and the best of the wondermakers could make much more than just cranes: think autonomous robots, analog computational orreries, literal fucking lasers powered by the sun. by babbage’s time europeans were intimately familiar with engineering and computational principles far beyond what the average contemporary person realizes. the actual innovation is the conceptual handling of it. without that, babbage just made a fancy shelf.

    either way babbage isn’t even remembered very fondly by the field. lovelace was far more influential and had far more intuition and genius to her work.


  • mullvad is good for most casual users but if you want to do anything technical i’d steer clear.

    you can’t forward the ports anymore in mullvad. don’t get me wrong, they did it as a measure to reduce the volume of CSAM and other trauma-inducing imagery their administrators had to deal with and i totally respect that reasoning. people get legitimate PTSD moderating and administrating certain platforms/services.

    just a shame torrenting gets made harder for everyone because of a handful of despicable individuals.


  • why do you guys always just move the goalposts?

    “X thing isn’t real AI, because real AI sucks and I might have to concede the positive attributes of X about AI generally… [OCR, chess bots, etc.]”

    “Y thing isn’t real vibe coding, because real vibing coding sucks and I might have to concede the positive attributes of Y about vibe coding…”

    like… you seem like you’ve just decided these things are “bad things” in your head and just shift your definitions the moment you meet reality and see anything that might evoke cognitive dissonance about it.


  • i’ll literally be talking about my own field in which i’d be considered an expert opinion with people who have no idea what they’re talking about and still get accused of mansplaining. i’ve never liked the framing of mansplaining either. it’s such a gigantic victim complex. you’re not obligated to sit and listen to anybody, let alone someone you aren’t enjoying talking to. if you sit and listen to someone’s entire explanation and don’t interject and explain you rather wouldn’t have - that’s not the other person in the conversation’s fault, be they a man, woman, or otherwise. like, you’re a grown ass fucking adult, why do we tolerate behavior that’s honestly kind of childish? the number of times i’ve seen genuine “mansplaining” i can count on one hand versus the numerous times ive seen men trying to earnestly participate in discourse shuttered out in the name of “justice.”

    this is how i kind of feel, it’s always just been a way to shut men down bc they said something you didn’t like or agree with. it’s rhetorically lazy, like you can’t even respond to what’s being said so you default to some weird ad hominem over their penis. not saying mansplaining doesn’t happen, it does, but it’s certainly not nearly as prevalent as people act. and frankly, even when it does, who the fuck cares? you’re not a hostage, and if you were, their monologue is the fucking least of your worries?!?



  • i think people are accountable for the systems they participate in, as involved or not as you actually feel.

    people are valid in being upset with doctors, engineers, etc. for systemic things. i certainly know i get pissed with the doctor here in the US sometimes. if the whole system you work in is rotten people are gonna get mad about your hand in it, as rational or not as it is, and i don’t think there’s anything wrong or unreasonable about that tbh.

    i don’t feel the need to abscond my responsibility in my work by pointing to others that may be involved… it’s how we end up here and now where no one can ever be held accountable for anything.

    don’t get me wrong, you’re right that it’s probably more a managerial problem than not. management is just, like it or not, at least in the West; an intrinsic part of our engineering and design process, and thus we are accountable for the effects it has on our product.




  • oh god i agree with cowbee wholeheartedly in a thread of discourse…

    oh god oh fuck oh shit i can feel it happening… is it warm in here?

    Я чувствую, как марксизм-ленинизм просачивается в мой мозг!!! make it stop.

    Теперь я чувствую себя белым и пушистым… как коммунистический медведь.

    —-

    anyway joking aside appreciate lemmy collectively telling neolibs to shut the fuck up bc while plenty of things .ml says piss me off, they don’t piss me off nearly as much as seeing americans who haven’t ripped the bandaid off yet.


  • that’s neat and all but it doesn’t respond to or subvert technocrit and his point in any real way.

    he’s not making an argument about the origin of our current system, he’s claiming that the status quo is upheld equally by both democrats and republicans who work together to prevent change or radical politics from ever emerging in the american political psyche.

    Funny how the same prefigurative traditionalism and claims about victimhood/attacks on traditional values can be seen in far right leaders across the globe, but nobody ever seems to point out the similarities.

    i think everyone is pointing out these similarities. somewhat ironically, i think someone like technocrit is pointing out more important similarities than someone like you who is drawing an imaginary line in the sand. regardless, the whole world is talking about the rising tide of fascism and i think it says more about you than the world or global discourse that you’d posit nobody is talking about it, bc people certainly are. it’s all we’ve talked about for 5-10 years - across the entire west and more.

    i think what you’re actually noticing or upset about is that nobody seems to do anything about it…


  • this is it pretty much. personal responsibility when it comes to this line of discourse is mostly just a myth. people are often not really responsible for the majority of their own live’s outcomes, let alone those most disadvantaged. people get deeply offended at the idea they’re not, in reality, some superman personally championing every single successful thing they’re in the vicinity of.

    i wish this culture would go away of blaming everyone individually for problems that are almost entirely systemic.

    it seems really obvious when you think about it even just a little bit that your future is mostly written by those around you, not yourself. you have a certain freedom of metered and realistic choice, but no freedom of will. couldn’t just will yourself out of a bad situation or to fly, it takes more pieces than that.


  • That one is much more recent but much less engaging of an anecdote imo. These are kind of lame but I’m always willing to chatter lol.

    Honestly just had a different, actual friend come over the day the news broke about the election in Trump’s favor here in the US and he was super into the honey jack daniels at the time. We just pounded an entire big bottle of that and I ended up way drunker than felt reasonably possible. Ended up shirtless sitting in the shower throwing up my guts. Also accidentally stepped on my cat which was sad (but I think she was okay). Oh and ig the Dictator-In-Chief shit happening but overall bad experience and while I didn’t really feel like I was gonna die but it made me retch a bit every time I smell cheap liquor mixed with honey from then on.

    I honestly had problems with alcohol from like, 17-18 all the way until I was 21, almost 22. I don’t really drink much anymore. It’s a bad drug anyway. Basically toxic. Nicotine is also up there. What’s it matter that nicotine itself doesn’t really much cause cancer if every single fucking way you can ingest it is carcinogenic itself somehow? Not to mention the addiction both of those can cause. The social acceptance of both is insane. I’ve ingested my fair share of both and more tho so maybe that’s why I’m so cognizant of everyone huffing and drinking what is paramount to a poison. I’m still hooked on both every once in awhile and want to quit but I don’t really think that’s the topic at hand here, bc I get these vibes when people bring that up in this vein.



  • random as fuck for me to mention here but i actually used to consider woodford reserve my favorite liquor until i bought one of the bigass bottles and a coworker at the time i thought was cool kept threatening to deck me if we didn’t keep taking shots until we went through the entire bottle. i’ve never genuinely thought i was going to die the way i did being collapse on the ground after. seriously thought that was it and i was gonna choke out on vomit or something in a drunken stupor. i did the math once to figure out my BAC that night and i should’ve probably died lmao.

    anyway long story short i have a food aversion to the taste and smell of woodford reserve now. any of those cheap honey whiskeys too but that’s a different story for a different time.