I’d be curious to know what your native tongue is

I would not give you a specific language, but country is India

Orientation refers to the same thing as attraction

this is new to me. In my post I used orientation for what I assumed to be gender, but I had no idea it was also related to attraction.

I do understand both points of finding similar folks or possibly finding partners

does your language assume that gay people do not exist?

pretty much. Many old folks consider it as a disease or mental illness.

Do you use the exact same word for a man who likes women (eg a straight man) as you would for a woman who likes women (eg a lesbian)?

That was not a thing, and hence it never had a word/s. basically someone born with a male reproductive part was male, other is female, and that is about it. A male was (is) expected to marry a female (love or arranged(where family finds “suitable” partners, and the bride/groom have little idea of other)).

Things have changed a lot for better in past 2 decades, but much of the “older ways” still remain as “traditions”.

I never confused sex and gender, as you describe them, as I said these do not exist as separate concepts in my natiive tounge. I used different words for them, which while not ideal, do convey the meaning. My questions were mostly regarding gendered pronouns, and having terms for different sexes (as in lgb of lgbt) or genders (t of lgbt), and why do even need terms for these, or why would one like to share it with others.

that was not the part of chain i wanted to refer to. Essentially, my native tongue (or culture in which I was raised), there is (was) no difference between sex and gender, as in, there were not separate concepts. What you guys would call a gender (and this is also partly based on interaction in this chain, where I even ask what does being a male even mean) - users preference of pronoun, or attire, etc is what I called orientation in my op (again, I also said in op that I do not know if that is correct term for it, and it was not).

the paragraph you have highlighted was the only part where I refered sex as sex (the one associated with your partner/s). Other than that paragraph, I mostly (I am guessing here, again, for me concept of gender is new and still fuzzy) meant gender.

I would apologise again for mmy lack of knowledge on this stuff, and this post has helped me understand gender better.

this is the comment chain - https://lemmings.world/post/28743360/16394388

I am sorry, but it kinda because of the cultural non separation of these 2 concepts in my mother tongue. I did explain it a bit more in another comment