Last night I had a hookup for the first time. I told the guy I wanted him to use a condom, which offended him because he was like, “Why do I need to use one if you already have an IUD? Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?” I told him I just don’t know him that well. Either way it was fine in the end, he put it on and it was a fine night. Now I’m thinking, was I being a pushover?
I sorta disagree. They should wear a condom for sure, but I hope that,if they are comfortable enough to have sex, that they are comfortable enough with each other to ask questions without malice.
Communication is important.
I see your point. I am just afraid of the other person agreeing to not wearing a condom because they might feel forced by the extra question and regretting the decision later.
But ideally they would indeed discuss with mutual respect and come to a good conclusion they both agree with ❤️
Yeah but unprotected sex with a stranger is malice in and of itself.
Agreed, but we’re they really strangers if the guy knew she had a IUD? I inferred some level of familiarity from there.
In any case, if I were to ask such question it would be either before or after the deed, so whatever.