Last night I had a hookup for the first time. I told the guy I wanted him to use a condom, which offended him because he was like, “Why do I need to use one if you already have an IUD? Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?” I told him I just don’t know him that well. Either way it was fine in the end, he put it on and it was a fine night. Now I’m thinking, was I being a pushover?
Others have said it well but I want to just say that you shouldn’t think of this in terms of “being a pushover”. You were setting boundaries and if those boundaries aren’t being respected, then you shouldn’t be sexually active with that person.