It didn’t used to be. At least for me and i don’t recall constantly seeing posts on social media about how lonely and sad everyone was or how to make friends. Now every other magazine article is about how lonely everyone is, nobody gets together, and gen Z doesn’t socialize, drink, or have sex.

Why is there such an epidemic of loneliness and why are people content to be lonely rather than socialize?

Why is so hard to connect? Because people having nothing in common anymore? I used to connect with people over books, movies, hobbies, etc. But now it feels increasingly hard to do that. Most folks I meet don’t care about any of that, they just mostly complain about their lives to you or go on political rants about how unfair the world is.

My friends and my dates no longer seem to watch films, or do much of anything other than spend time on social media? I dont’ use social media so I’m pretty ignorant of it all.

  • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.worldOP
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    24 hours ago

    i can unplug and not feel guilty and maybe that is what my difference is?

    This is my big disconnect with people my own age, and younger people. They seem to have anxiety about these things. I don’t care. They get very upset when I don’t text back immediately, as if I am socially rejecting them. When I text back a few hours later, it’s ‘too late’. but if you ask them to meet up face to face they ‘are too busy and have no time’. And yet they will tell you how much time they waste doing nothing. I also talk to people on the phone, and apparently this is ‘rude’ now to call someone up and talk to them for an hour to catch up?

    I don’t get any of it. I find all of it very alienating. Like, whatever happened to just going to a movie, getting a bite to eat, and chilling out? That was what I did like 90% of the time. Maybe 10% going to a party or dinner with someone.

      • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.worldOP
        7·
        22 hours ago

        i don’t understand the constant anxiety. but it seems most folks are anxious all the time, probably from the endless social comparison on social media they are doing and the constant need for immediate and positive feedback.

        which seems to be why people like AI so much? because it tells you how wonderful you are.