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Cake day: January 16th, 2025

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  • depends. there’s people who to not ghost I’d have to have to have a several hour conversion of them spam texting or attempting to interrogate me and we were never close enough for it to be my responsibility to explain their interpersonal failings to them in detail. I can’t fix the world and if I spend my personal time giving every person I run into whose parents failed to teach them basic social skills an hour+ of psychosocial educational therapy, I would never get anything else done.



  • The worst part is that it’s not just that it’s a position of power, it’s that there’s also very little else about it that’s desirable. Your entire job is to show up places and tell people to stop doing things they want or feel that they need to be doing, and often that they’re willing to physically attack you for interfering with. The pay is also pretty mediocre overall. So if you want overall pleasant interpersonal interactions or a decent wage, you’d have to go elsewhere. If all you want is power over other human beings, that job will be a great fit for you.


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    and in the ways that’s it’s not customer service focused it’s so focused on flowsheets and tracking metrics that you have to constantly consciously remind yourself that the human in front of you isn’t just an object that you’re doing things to. It gets to a point that you’re wiping people’s genitals with the same efficiency as you’ll wipe down the bed when they’re done with it and some patients can tolerate that well enough but then every once in a while you get someone with sexual trauma. And that’s just one example.







  • well honestly it’s the creation of high attention / judgment tasks with high risk to human health and safety then making many of them either a part of daily life (driving) or making them jobs you have to do 8-12h straight 3-5 days a week (health, public safety, public transportation, etc). Train companies in particular are basically famous for making their conductors functionally unable to use sick hours, and medical residency is famous for 48h+ straight shifts. Personally I’m finding I have to do about 4-5x12h shifts (48-60h weeks) to stay solidly in the black, but me and hubs are considering how we want to cut back for a little more wiggle room. If we really valued human health and safety we’d keep those tasks much more specialized and make sure the people who do them have way more downtime to decompress but alas the capitalist wheel must keep turning.

    I’ve been on an extended tolerance break from substances myself. In January I’ll have two years off alcohol and I’m August I’ll also have two years off THC (I used it to quit the alcohol but wound up with CHS). Supposedly at the two year mark a bunch of your neurochemistry has mostly reset itself so once I’ve done that AND have a sober-only hobby I think I’ll be safe to reapproach occasional drinking. And I’ll also know that I have the coping skills to take another tolerance break if I need to. I too find the self flagellation of addict culture to be both highly performative and ultimately counterproductive.