one side is saying how shit you are and how you deserve nothing. it’s only women who are worthwhile and you should just fuck off and die.

Except this is a right-wing talking point and a misrepresentation of what left-wing ideals encompass.

the other side is saying ‘do this and you’ll be successful’, it sucks right now but you will get there if you try.

Except that’s not what they communicate, because while they offer “solutions” (mostly towards a rather suppressive and overly strict understanding of gender stereotypes) they immediately find in and shift the blame for young men’s problems towards an out-group, such as the “radical left” and LTBGQ people.

In fact, I find it’s the right that actively hates me for just being me because I don’t conform to their idea of what a man is, even though I’m a cis-hetero white male.

“Don’t try to find your own way because this is what you need to be, and everything else is degenerate and shameful.”

I know which I find more appealing.

To note: I’m not who you responded to.

making separate laws for separate genders is not the solution

Absolutely it is. If there is a measurable inequality towards a minority, you should enshrine the protection of that minority into law - which is one reasons why many countries specify anti-discrimination laws. This law regards the same.

The problem here is completely different

Which you have failed to specify. So… the problem is what, exactly? I don’t see one.

and requires different solutions.

Which you also failed to provide.

I’m getting a strong “but won’t anyone think of the men!” vibe from you.

This makes me happy! But please, do share your results.

Oh, get off your high horse.