Like how we all face the door in an elevator or feel the need to say ‘ope’ when we almost bump into someone. What’s a silent rule of society that you find hilarious or totally unnecessary?

  • otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    Not discussing pay rate with coworkers/colleagues. I mean, talk about complicity via fear. 🫪

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      I feel like anyone who isn’t heavily involved in left wing internet spaces understands why you don’t want to discuss pay with coworkers.

      Someone fears their coworkers will find out they are making less, and will think they are less skilled, or maybe a pushover.

      Or someone fears their coworkers will find out they are making more, and will fear their coworkers think they were manipulative in order to get it, think they are egotistical for sharing, or may become envious.

      And then pay discrepencies invite unwanted feelings about “do I actually deserve to make more than him - I don’t think I’m worth it” or “I make so much less rhan her, I must suck at my job.”

      Not discussing pay is a convenient way to sweep all this under the rug

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          That’s my point. Unless you are an online leftist, you probably aren’t constantly analyzing the world in terms of bosses exploiting their workers. You are far more concerned about your social standing among your peers.

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            Sort of? I’m a team lead (middle management) so I have a vested interest in seeing my team is paid as high as possible. As part of goal planning we have frank discussions of certifications, training AND salary. That includes discussing where I’m at and what it took to get there. Its pushed folks who otherwise would be content with what the company gives them and gives them a roadmap to move up.

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              Wow you’re the exact opposite of my experience of middle management! Which is: never discuss salary, don’t encourage certification or training, do not explain how you got there, do not give employees a roadmap, just pile on the work and stoke fear.

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        I remember being a kid and hearing about a family member’s workplace instituting a rule against discussing pay after some people got upset they were making less than their coworkers and started advocating for higher pay.

        Neither I nor anyone in my immediate family was a leftist, but it seemed really obvious the primary reason for the rule was that management didn’t want people to have reasons to demand higher pay.

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      Not discussing pay rate with coworkers/colleagues. I

      My day job is Union. Everyone’s rates are well-published. We have less boring things to talk about.

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      Might be true for non-union gigs, but from my experience in union shops nobody cares because everyone can see what the pay rates are. Same with retirement plans.