Bit of a shower thought: Outside of limited circumstances, like interviews or therapy, nobody is really expected to give you honest feedback on how you come across.
This sucks. I’ve been told I come across as unfriendly once, but I have no idea if I was just nervous and tired at the time. I still cherish that one moment almost 10 years ago when someone told me I was funny in some corporate team building bs.
Now, I could ask friends and family, but I believe they would probably not tell me the full, honest truth. After all, they (hopefully) like me and I would probably avoid being too harsh to everyone but very close people in private.
At the same time, I know plenty of people who really should get some feedback, who probably believe they are funny while everyone is bored and annoyed and hopes they talk a little less and the like.
So, are there socially accepted ways to get feedback on how you come across?
I realize that people are strange, relationships are hard, P!=NP and anime is not real. Still, it would be nice to have.
It’s just something I was always told. If you own a dog and the dog doesn’t like your friend, it is a red flag. They are empaths. I am really talking about big dogs. The little ones are less reliable. I know the personality of a person rubs off on the dog. But there isn’t really science behind this. Just something I observed. There really is no such thing as a bad person. Just people who do bad things. But a lot of the time dogs will pick up on Sketchy people before we do.
Right, I’ve heard that too, and I agree there is some truth to it, I just don’t think it’s reliable.