It's a long held stereotype that gay men walk faster than straight men – whether or not it's true, experts say it has some health benefits.
  • Gumby@lemmy.worldEnglish
    13·
    11 hours ago

    It’s a long held stereotype that gay men walk faster than straight men

    Is it though? This is the first I’ve heard of it

  • 1D10@lemmy.worldEnglish
    10·
    21 hours ago

    That’s not true, I’ve always been told I walk too fast and I’m straight, Ish.

  • Beangut@lemmy.worldEnglish
    8·
    21 hours ago

    Can confirm, am bisexual. Regularly stuck behind slow walkers but not fast enough to overtake fast walkers.

  • samus12345@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    33·
    1 day ago

    It’s a long held belief or stereotype that gay men walk faster than straight men

    It is? Is this some commonly known stereotype that I just missed hearing about?

  • dellish@lemmy.worldEnglish
    124·
    2 days ago

    It’s gay to walk quickly. It’s gay to take your own bags to the shops. It’s gay to have empathy.

    Holy shit there are a lot of people out there who are very insecure with themselves.

    • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.worldEnglish
      23·
      1 day ago

      things people have took me I’m gay for:

      reading
      cooking
      cleaning
      being decently dressed (not even well-dressed)
      having skin care products
      using conditioner on my hair
      driving a sedan/compact car
      playing nintendo or jrpg games
      enjoying classic music/opera/theater/ art & foreign films owning a cat
      drinking cocktails/lattes/milkshakes
      riding/racing bicycles
      not playing team ballsports

      the definition of straight man is very very narrow for some folks, basically drive a giant truck, be unable to take care of yourself, and be into sports and action pop cuture, rock and roll/rap, and only ever do ‘basic’ things.

      if you do anything outside of the box, you’re gay. because ‘normal straight men’ don’t do those things, and if they do, they only do it to impress women or something. like I can go to the opera with my girlfriend and hate it, but if i go myself and enjoy it I’m gay.

      • uniquethrowagay@feddit.orgEnglish
        3·
        1 day ago

        Funnily enough, people who have such narrow definition of manliness usually refuse to acknowledge gender identity as a concept. It honestly baffles me sometimes.

      • pipikia@lemmy.zipEnglish
        1·
        1 day ago

        I mean it works since that keeps them from hurting you while you’re banging their wife.

      • 1D10@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        21 hours ago

        I’m an old man who looks like a Sheppard, I love when other old guys think I’m one of them and say stupid shit.

        “Girl, please” as a response kinda breaks them.

    • WideEyedStupid@lemmy.worldEnglish
      4·
      2 days ago

      I can see how right-wing idiots might call empathy gay, but bags or walking quickly? I really don’t get that.

      • Kilgore Trout@feddit.itEnglish
        4·
        22 hours ago

        Your own bags = reusable = eco-sustainability = weak.

        I hae neer heard associating reusing bags to gay, but I can see how it may work “logically”.

        • 1D10@lemmy.worldEnglish
          3·
          21 hours ago

          Fuck it isn’t even exclusive to heterosexuals, I’ve met some gay men who can’t stand “butch” lesbians and lots of queer people who hate bisexuality.

          • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.worldEnglish
            1·
            19 hours ago

            nope. some of the most heinous shit i’ve seen comes from queer folks. some of them have supremacy complexes about their flavor or gay or queer or whatever being the only ‘real’ one.

        • WideEyedStupid@lemmy.worldEnglish
          4·
          1 day ago

          I guess that’s fair, but thinking that empathy is weakness (or something bad in general) is a predominantly right-wing idea. In fact, that’s one of the main problems. The right has a severe lack of empathy.

          • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.worldEnglish
            4·
            1 day ago

            right, tell that to all the progressives in my state who are ‘the left’ who basically think if you weren’t born rich you should fuck off and die. SUCH EMPATHY they have.

            but sure, they pretend to love the gays and trans and they love their pride flags on their porches… as long as they don’t have to see any non-white gays or trans people…

            just like they love BLM, but they systematically freak out and oppose any development of public or low income housing…

  • Zink@programming.devEnglish
    21·
    2 days ago

    Unexpected?

    I appreciate all the funny comments about the gay tie-in, but the “unexpected health benefits” of WALKING is the dumbest attempt at clickbaitizing a headline that I’ve seen in a while.

  • IndustryStandard@lemmy.worldEnglish
    69·
    2 days ago

    Pythagoras claim that walking in a straight line is the fastest way has been debunked. Walking in a gay line is faster.

    • Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.worldEnglish
      22·
      2 days ago

      I hope not. I usually walk quickly, with purpose. I hate these types that can best be described as “waddling”. Just like a sloth cosplaying as a duck. And somehow they manage to just stand in doorways, and block isles. Meanwhile I’m in my head thinking “HEY FUCKFACE!!! MOVE YOUR FUCKING ASS!!!”

      And then I wonder if I might have anger management issues. Then I realized I haven’t punched anyone in a really long time, so that’s close enough to managed anger. So that means these wastes of space really are that annoying to walk behind. Shopping doesn’t have to take 2 hours. You can be in and out in like 10 minutes. You just gotta know what you’re buying, and where it is. But then these types just…exist.

      So I just want everyone to know, that if you could lose a race to a snail, I want you to know that everyone hates you. If you’re going to walk this slow, just get a mobility scooter. Maybe you’ll be faster on wheels. Which means out of my way faster. And really, that’s the ultimate goal here, right? Getting everyone out of my way. I think that’s a goal everyone should work towards. That, and finding someone willing to bring me cheese regularly.

      I really like cheese.

      But also, I’m not gay. I had no idea speed was gay? Then again, I don’t notice these things. I’m always the last to know if someone is gay. I didn’t realize Richard Simmons was gay until 1995. I got made fun of for not knowing. And that’s how I found out.

      • lightsblinken@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        2 days ago

        imho you are describing managed anger, next step is to zen away to anger in the first place - it does sound slightly above average, all caps is just bad news bro. anyhoo - you can do it!

        • lovely_reader@lemmy.worldEnglish
          7·
          2 days ago

          The first step is to want to get rid of the anger though, right? How does one in this state move past the idea that they are right, and therefore it’s right to be angry?

          • Buddahriffic@lemmy.worldEnglish
            3·
            1 day ago

            For me, a big epiphany came through examining my intent while angry and whether the anger was helping or hindering that intent.

            There are some cases where it can help, though might still not be the best tactic. It makes you more willing to use more force when doing something physical; but you are capable of that force with more control when not angry. And it can have social effects: intimidation, empathy, increased resistance, and trolling.

            Empathy is really the only beneficial one, though it often involves patronization because it reduces you to a child throwing a tantrum, so it’s a bit of a pathetic one.

            Intimidation doesn’t convince people, though they may appease you in the moment or even long term, but each time you do that, you’re “cashing in” some of the relationship and possibly putting a target on your back if those you intimidate see any way of eliminating you as a threat.

            And obviously increased resistance or trolling are the opposite of what you want to accomplish.

            Once you’ve convinced yourself that anger doesn’t help regardless of whether you’re right or right to be angry, then it’s a matter of reminding yourself about this when you feel anger flaring up instead of trying to justify it. Don’t punish yourself about it, it’s ok to feel anger even if unhelpful and getting more upset that you got upset is even more counterproductive.

            It’s not easy. You will probably even fail to control your anger sometimes and let your emotional side dictate that this time it’s different or you just don’t care this time. Nothing you can really do other than reflect honestly on it later, once the anger has passed.

            You can also pause to examine your feelings in the moment of anger. What are you feeling right then? Why? Where do you want things to go from there? How could you get there? Is it really that important? Could you be the wrong one? Could it be a big miscommunication and you’re actually arguing about two different things? Why is it so upsetting that someone feels differently from you? Why do you feel like it’s your job to correct this?

            Though one form of anger we should hold on to is indignant rage at living in a system designed to fuck us from multiple angles all at once.

      • 1D10@lemmy.worldEnglish
        1·
        21 hours ago

        I had a friend back in the day who loved Rupaul, they got so mad when we tried explaining drag to them, refused to believe us. But one day they just stopped talking about how sexy Rupaul was. Some folks just don’t have “gaydar” as long as noone gets hurt it’s all ok.