You would not believe it, I just met the protagonist of sex the other day. Every time a woman mentions being interested in sex in any way, they secretly mean sex with him. I met another one the day before that, too. Actually it’s wild how many random guys on telegram, discord, forum direct messages, and literally any other means of internet communication are all the protagonist of sex.
Okay you should have said that before. I’d never have upvoted your stuff knowing I wasn’t gonna get laid for it. Now I have to go back and undo all those upvotes! Please try to be more mindful of your platform fuckboys.
Well you’ve done pissed everyone off.
Good job <3 I mean that legitimately. The best shitpost I’ve ever made have always been the ones causing straight dudes to get ravenous over me being gay. So much funnier seeing them just drool in rage and seems like you got the same pricks going lmao
As a straight guy I’m actually relieved you’re gay because that’s just less competition. Carry on doing the gay!
It is strange how many women hit on me and I have zero response for it everytime
Interestingly enough I’ve never had a gay guy hit on me. Either I exude straight vibes or gay dudes just aren’t desperate enough to settle for me lmao
Probably just the vibes lol also gotta think about the fact that if we hit on the wrong person we can die lol we gotta be careful about that in general. Also I wouldn’t worry about looks either. I’m into dudes that look Seth Rogan and stuff. See the right side of this meme for some my type of omnom. Boop
Pretty much in the middle of those two, or “built like a brick shithouse” as I’ve been told. The last two women I’ve dated actually found it attractive, so I’m assuming they had daddy issues lol
Was nice actually being found attractive by someone for a change though.
also gotta think about the fact that if we hit on the wrong person we can die lol
Less likely where I’m from since no guns, but yeah, I can see how it may be scary to flirt with someone that looks like me if you don’t know if I’m homophobic or not lol
That could make me jealous, but then again so many men hit on me and I have zero response for it everytime so I guess we’re even
Actually if I’m being honest I’m just happy to know I’m hot to someone
I’m not gay but I’ve been told that I really look gay
I tend to apologize to the gay people for wasting their time and wasting their attention.
In real life I have never seen someone care. Some people avoid it because RL has consequences, but most just don’t care about other people’s sexuality. I don’t live in the US tho.
As a gay man I’ve seen people care so much they tried to kill me lol
It’s very sad that people still suffer for something that shouldn’t be an issue to anyone. This hate is fed to ignorant people so they don’t focus on real issues that affect their life.
There are some cultures where bigots are more prevalent, with ignorance and religion being the main catalysts. The US has plenty of both.
There are bigots in my country too, but they are more oppressed because here, hate is not considered free speech and culturally, most people will ostracize you if you express divisive opinions.
On the internet they are rampant, because of the amplification effect and perceived anonymity.
The comments on this are a roller coaster. One of those ones that flips upside down and shit.
Your posts are a refreshing change of pace in an otherwise heavily male-focused space.
Lemmy is great but requires some heavy pruning. I reccomend making frequent use of the block button
Lemmy also has a misogyny problem, despite being progressive on most issues. Besides my own experience, I’ve seen this a lot in women/feminism-related threads.
I think society at large has a misogyny-as-default problem unfortunately. I guess most of us have been raised with biases we’re not really aware of until we reach a certain level of self-reflection.
Sometimes I feel like Lemmy is worse than reddit in this regard. The amount of blatant misogony I see is unreal. Memes, posts, comments, it’s everywhere, often not-so-subtly too.
Reddit has worse but it’s more contained imo. Most of lemmy browses all so we’re all just here with each other as opposed to having people cordoned off onto the red pill and female dating strategy vs trollx and similar communities.
Women reddit is the main thing I miss
such a holy name you have. haha.
It’s like this for a lot of the fediverse, too. I came here from a misskey fork, and I don’t see much of a difference in frequency, but Lemmy is more capable of concentrating it.
Literally tho, I read a post to an article about “The Misogyny Problem on TikTok” and the top comment was the most lemmy tone-deaf “so don’t use corporate social media (with algorithms)”
My brother in christ you are not a woman on the fediverse and it shows
This is honestly the start of a much bigger rant about Lemmy as a whole but I’m gonna stop it here tbh
It’s just tiring
Keep up the memes, i love that are original.
Your posts are a refreshing change of pace in an otherwise heavily male-focused space.
You could almost say /c/femcelmemes is, uhhh, leaking, in a way.
👉👈
simpler times
I can pretends right?.. Turns into rabidchu. LOL… That’s gay!.. Uhuh, I never asked, I also partakes in the vaginal gex …W/the lesbians too. :)
Lol. I am liking your posts 'cause you provide much needed whiplash among dominantly politic content, so thanks xD
I upvote almost everything
I see upvote as “this is a good Lemmy post/comment” and downvote as “this is a bad Lemmy post/comment”. Most of what I see is good. Bad things are things such as misinformation, bad faith stuff / trolling, bad (in my opinion) takes, people being wrong/stupid about stuff, irrelevant things, etc. When I do not vote it’s for one of 3 reasons: either I don’t understand what it is saying, it makes a reference I don’t get, or I can’t determine whether it’s good or bad (usually because it’s unclear).
edit: making this comment got me wondering about how other people judge posts/comments and vote, so I made a post on Ask Lemmy: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/65352983
Some people don’t know how to deal with an overtly sexual woman. It throws them for a loop. To some people, only men are allowed to be horny. If you’re a horny woman you must be a slut who can’t control their emotions and that’s bad.
I think it’s important for some men to realize women are people, too. I know that sounds silly to say out loud but I really think some guys think women are these completely different creatures from themselves. We’re all human and, gasp, some like to talk and joke about sex. The horror!
tbf this board is 99.8% male and like 1/3rd autistic at that and there’s almost no posts in Lemmy Shitpost talking about how they love showing off their dicks, fucking women, being horny, jerking off etc because these guys are nerds not frat boys
Happy to be proven wrong
That’s not to say the content isn’t welcome, if it wasn’t it’d be downvoted (ask me how I know)
It’s less that I mind or care, it’s more that seriously horny content wasn’t really a thing before. Sure, people would joke around, but actual horny-posting was limited to places you had to actively seek out (like lemmynsfw). If people don’t want to draw attention to what they say, be it good or bad, they shouldn’t say things that stick out 🤷
i think the presumably male hornyposting takes the form of “here is an image i enjoy with no commentary,” making the subject of attraction the main focus and barely mentions the poster at all, violet’s specific brand centers violet as the main character, her feelings as central, and barely mentions the actual subject of those feelings
so there’s a real difference
I think there was some of that in nsfw. I think the biggest instance died, though.
Yeah. But then to see it, you would have actually made the conscious choice to go to lemmynsfw, no?
The posts are still shown on the main feed (depending on instance) just buried by everything else. Scroll long enough and you’ll see it
Ah OK. I’m on my own instance. So I don’t have any of those communities here. So in my case I won’t.
I do hate the double standard that it’s totally fine for men to joke and talk about sex, but when a woman does it, she must be dirty in some way. I get that biologically, women have had to be more choosy with partners because for a long time, the best protection was zero insertion, or the chances of ending up with a child you didn’t want were nonzero. Things are different now. We have the pill. We have emergency contraceptives. Some of us even have access to abortions.
Sex isn’t dirty. It’s normal and natural to want it. It’s normal to have a hard time getting it. It’s normal to be frustrated by the dating field and navigating relationships. It’s normal to feel incredibly rewarded when you do get it. And it’s normal to want to blow off steam by talking to people closest to you about your successes and failures in life. And a big part of being human is one’s own sexual exploits.
One of my closest friends is a woman about 13 years older than me (I’m 33; she’s 46), and she’s going through menopause right now. And she’ll start talking about the difficulty it’s bringing her, and she’ll tell me, “You don’t wanna hear about all this,” or, “I know you don’t care about this.” And the truth is that I do not nor could I ever understand what she’s going through, but as a friend, I can listen to her complain about it and give her the space to vent. Even if I’ll never get it, I can just be a voice in the room to pull out some great hits like:
- “Jeeeesus, I’m so sorry,”
- “Yikes, that sucks,” or
- "Haha, Fuck. That."
As a man, I don’t always have follow up questions or advice to offer someone going through issues unique to women. But people aren’t always looking for advice. Sometimes, it’s just nice to have the space to blow off steam with a safe person.
And that’s not dirty. It’s something we all do.
Curious that this is your perception, while i myself have noticed a sort of inverse trend in that regard.
Especially around these parts it is heavily frowned upon making any kind of horny or sexual comment as a dude about a woman. A surefire way to get schooled on what a misogynist objectifying dick you are (excluding literal porn community comment section of course).
Other horny comments are much less controversial, women on men, men on men, women on women. Things you might find in the average (gay) porn comment section get upvoted on lemmy on a regular basis, im sure it’s totally ironic.
So my personal “analysis” of recent ish lemmy online discourse would be that heterosexual men on lemmy avoid being publicly horny because of the expected blowback. That or they make an alt account.
Considering it was only about 100 years ago that science decided that women could orgasm and weren’t just faking it to make their husbands happy…yes, the idea that a woman can be horny and is a normal human being is a shocking revelation to some (many?).
who can’t control their emotions
Ironic how men accuse horny women of being unable to control their emotions when it’s mostly horny men being unable to control their emotions that’s actually problematic (causing misogyny and rape)
Many men tend to be actually too horny, they objectify women and tend to have misogynistic and patriarchal expectations.
See that makes a lot of sense, but you are forgetting something vital. This is the internet, so everyone is a guy. Especially the horny women. Therefore, only men can be horny. Checkmate, wanktheiests.
La’Ron Readus has an interesting video essay on this called ‘The Siren’s Scapegoat’ that I recommend giving a watch if you’re interested on the way movies have handled women being overtly sexual!
Goddamnit, this comment thread is gonna make me work. Op, if anyone starts harassing you, don’t be shy, send me reports. I ain’t playing this shit.
Lol do you need your bonking stick?
No stomp, more like
HHAHA thats bests bonks ever.
If he’s going after people harrassing violet, he can borrow mine.
… And my axe!
And my… where did I put it again? Shit, I always forget.
I saw the thumbnail and was about to comment “justice for violet08” but then I opened the post and it was you
Still though. Justice for violet08
I enjoy the posts, I’ve just always assumed this is another user doing a bit though — which is fine
All the better if there is a real person behind this, it gives me some hope for the younger generation, and I hope nothing you encounter here makes you regret sharing who you are and what you’re going through.
But you’re in a community that is skewing older and more early-internet, and thus most of us find it prudent to pretty much assume every identity in a community like this is partially or largely fake. I am, for example, a 4 year old Australian Shepherd in real life and my human has no clue.
Real or fake, I enjoy my game of “Stamets or Violet” every time I see a horny or uncouth post.
On the internet everyone knows you’re a dog if you’re from pawb.social at least.
Looks concerningly regardless of instance
I, for one, still believe Stamets and Violet are the same person. Have you ever seen them in the same room together at the same time?? Checkmate!
You’ll never know either
This is like the second or third time I’ve seen this Stamets person mentioned, as if everyone knows who they are, but I’m clueless. I figure I’d better ask now before it gets even more awkward - who is Stamets and what’s their deal?
Hi.
I post a lot.
I started posting about 3 years ago to another instance before moving to lemmy.world and then shifting over to lemmy.dbzer0.com. I’m gay and a massive die hard Star Trek fan. I also post a fucking lot, way more in the past that I currently do. The things that I do post to shitpost communities are pretty gay or pretty horny and have similar vibes to the stuff that Violet apparently posts.
I’ve been called a power user (which I hate), a lemmy celeb (which I hate even more) and an asshole (which is accurate). Someone also accused me of being Gallowboob (a very prominent redditor) once which was kinda funny. I’m just a known quantity.
I see you as having no reddit parallel. You are singular and we have no need of such comparisons.
Neat! A pleasure to make your acquaintance.
I’m straight and not much of a Trekkie, so that might be how I’ve failed to notice your posting thus far, but I do love a good shitpost! I vibe with your feelings about being a power user or lemmy celeb, and being a reddit refugee I find it amusing that you were accused of being Gallowboob!
https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/u/Stamets
Idk what his deal is officially, just that if I find a meme especially relatable on a neurospicy level, it’s him 9/10 times. And that he kinda likes Star Trek.
I’ve responded to and had Stamets comment on some of my posts. Don’t know anything about Violet
Well a useful tip is that I don’t post in this community or to any Lemmy.world communities anymore lol
I feel a bit bad for silently upvoting your content instead of commenting things to offset the shit you must get. I don’t say much here compared to how many things I upvote. Please keep doing your thing, you are appreciated here and I hope you can still enjoy yourself without creeps spoiling that.
Hi, I upvoted your post, so when’s the wedding? 😏
Step back. I’ve upvoted quite a few of Violet’s posts therefore we are obviously going to meet later, do The Sex ™, then go out for cheese sandwiches!!!
How the fuck did he get grilled cheese in here‽
But I did. And if someone wants sexual services from me, assassinate Peter Thiel, and I will be right back on it.
Look. I’ll do it for free. It’s been a rough spell.
Nothing is more wholesome than people doing it for the love of the game
Thank you! Pretty generous! And I don’t have to give up my booty for it!
American/christianism puritanism at its best.
We’ve been taught that violence is fine, every human is violent and, in some cases, it’s even a good thing. But god forbid you manifest sexual desires in public!
Like… mate, do you realize that violence only brings pain while sex brings pleasure?
Then you realize that the whole point of both is to make your life miserable and things start making sense.
so you’re saying instead of bombing countries we don’t like we should organize an orgy in the magnitude of hundreds of millions of people? fair enough
Make love, not war
… Seems like its worth a try.
Sex brings pleasure and consequences in children/std or even physical injuries. Also sex is largerly overrated when we have videogames and anime.
Unlike wars and violence that bring pleasure without consequences to the rich fucks who send kids to kill themselves for them.
Certainly, we should have more wars and less sex, it only makes sense, right?
False equivalence. Are you American or what?
No.
Have you heard of this these things called condoms?
Or birth control?
Or fleshlights and vibrators?
…Did you ever take a sex ed class, or no?
STDs are not 100% prevented by condoms, and STIs are not prevented at all. The more sex partners you have, the bigger the odds you’ll have consequences.
Toys as substitute to what, physical contact? Having a partner?
… Or you can have sex with people who both use protection, and … go to the doctor at least once or twice a year, and include an STD/STI screen in their checkups.
You know, actually knowing the people you’ve had sex with?
I’ve had sex with between 10 and 20 different partners, depending on precisely what you categorize as ‘sex’.
Some flings, some serious relationships.
Did this with all of them.
No STDs/STIs, for any of us.
Even if you do have certain STIs/STDs, there are ways that you can greatly reduce the risk of transmission, manage things.
I bring up toys because you bring up injuries, games, and anime.
There are a lot of different kinds of toys and other sex aides that can make sex easier and/or less likely for anybody to injure themselves, for a wide variety of potential injuries and body types, sex positions.
Also, while sure toys are not the same thing as a partner, I’d argue that they’re more sexually satisfying than just looking at game or anime, and there’s a good deal of evidence that its unhealthy to not orgasm at least semi-regularly, when you’re younger, for both your mind and body.
And also, toys can be used by or with partners, even remotely, and we are now at the point where sex toys essentially are or can be video game controllers, basically, can output uh, sensations, and can also input your ‘commands’.
You can orgasm without a partner. Same goes for toys. That’s not sex. It’s not even unusual for asexual people do all that.
Limiting amount of partners to single digits or even just one reduces the odds of issues drastically. It’s not a religious thing.
Y’all look like those teens that got to live separately from their parents to start eating sweets 100% time instead of normal food cause it’s tastier. Fun for a while. Bad idea in the long run.
You can orgasm without a partner. Same goes for toys. That’s not sex. It’s not even unusual for asexual people do all that.
And you can orgasm safely with a partner, if you are educated about sex, understand your own body, your partner’s body, follow best practices, and those involved are honest with each other.
And yes, its not even unusual for asexual people to do that.
And I would argue it is generally much, muuuuch more interesting and enjoyable to orgasm with a person, who at the very least is excited by the prospect of being part of that, than it is to jerk off or flick your bean on your own.
Hell, a lot of women don’t even know what an orgasm feels like, because women have different possible modes of actually getting to a climax, many are capable of different kinds of orgasms, and many of them just can only/most reliably reach orgasm by a means that would require a partner or a toy.
As an example: ‘the G Spot’. Different women have differently sized snd shaped ‘spots’, some just basically don’t meaningfully have one, some can basically only climax when g spot stimulation is involved, for others, the g spot stimulation is basically inconsequential.
Limiting amount of partners to single digits or even just one reduces the odds of issues drastically. It’s not a religious thing.
Don’t think I ever said it was religious thing, so uh, sure, ok.
And … I mean yes, less sex you have with people is strictly speaking less likely to land you with an STI STD, extremely broadly.
But safe sex is a thing, and it isn’t really that hard to do between two moderately intelligent, trustworthy, consenting adults.
Its also pretty easy to avoid an unwanted pregnancy, unless you or the place you live has some sort of ‘religious thing’ impeding that.
Y’all look like those teens that got to live separately from their parents to start eating sweets 100% time instead of normal food cause it’s tastier. Fun for a while. Bad idea in the long run.
… I’m in my 30s.
I’ve had boring sex and extremely interesting sex, and that’s actually not been significantly linked to me and my partner’s age… it has much more to do with sexual compatibility, being into the same kinds of things, communication styles.
I’ve also just been single, as in alone, without any sex, for spans of years between me being 16 and how old I am now.
Personally, I would not advocate just trying to max out your body count ASAP just for the sake of doing that.
I’ve just had a number of relationships that lasted for a while, were good for a while, didn’t work out in the end, mixed with some periods of just dating around very casually for a while, mixed with some periods of just focusing on myself.
You’re thinking of someone who is 18 and has already had 10 to 20 sexual partners, someone who is in their 20s and has had 50 to 80 partners or something like that.
Yeah, sure, that’s maybe getting to the point where you are significantly impacting your ability to long term pair bond with a person.
But those kinds of people are actually pretty darn rare, roughly less than 5% of even the most promiscuous Western societies.
What is much, much more common is for people to greatly exagerate the number of partners they’ve had, because either they think it makes them sound cool, or they’re in a social group which praises that, or both.
But even still: Some people just don’t want a permanent partner, never did and never will, just like how some people don’t ever want to have kids or start a family.
Consequences is just a wild thing to say.
When I get a cold no one jumps on my shit for having to live with the consequences of going outside. They say sorry to hear you’re sick feel better
Actions have consequences, what a weird concept. Being outside in the cold in light clothes have consequences with increased chance to catch cold.
Nobody would tell you to live with the consequences cause it’s not permanent, several days at home and you are fine.
Hahaha this guy thinks cold weather causes colds
The only way to 100% prevent colds is to be around other people as little as possible. If you chose to be around people you choose to get colds.
Sounds ridiculous, but that’s the logic you’ve used
aren’t STDs and STIs just 2 different terms for the same thing?
Sort of, kind of, its a bit complicated.
https://www.verywellhealth.com/std-vs-sti-5214421
STDs start as sexually transmitted infections (STIs). An infection occurs when a sexually transmitted bacterium, virus, or microbe enters the body and starts multiplying. Once established, the infection can develop into a disease, known as an STD.
Although this distinction can be made, most health authorities, like the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), use the terms interchangeably. The American Sexual Health Association mentions a shift toward using “STI,” but there’s no consensus in the medical and public health community.3
…
STIs are infections caused by bacteria, viruses, or parasites.6 They’re usually transmitted during sexual activity through an exchange of bodily fluids or skin-to-skin contact where the infection is active.
STIs can also be transmitted through non-sexual activities involving the exchange of bodily fluids. For instance, sharing needles can spread the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV). Kissing on the mouth can transmit some STIs, though it generally poses a low risk for most.
STDs are diseases that result from STIs. All STDs start out as infections. Pathogens, which are disease-causing organisms such as viruses and bacteria, enter the body and begin multiplying. When these pathogens disrupt normal body functions, they produce diseases.
It’s important to note that some STIs may never develop into diseases. For example, most human papillomavirus (HPV) cases go away on their own without causing health problems. However, HPV can produce genital warts or cervical cancer, which are diseases.
Then you also have things like yeast infections, which on their own are not STDs, are not typically considered STIs…
… but are fairly commonly mistaken as such.
But, the distinction between STIs and STDs is fairly new, and seems to be mostly a US centric thing.
You should try having good sex once or twice, and then get back to us.
Something tells me they’re incapable of that
That’s difficult when doctors amputated all your best sensory receptors shortly after birth.
“Religion demands it” is not an excuse for child genital mutilation to be legal. Freedom of religion includes freedom from religion. The government must never pass religion-motivated laws nor use religion as a reason or excuse to do something nor as a reason against something. I personally would rather have the government ban religion than involve it in laws (but the ideal would be it doing neither).
The child did not consent. The parents’ consent counting as consent by the child is bullshit.
Also the practice includes intersex erasure: children lucky enough to be born fully androgynous are immediately mutilated, usually by removing the male parts.
I mean, I got the snip snip at birth, I am not pleased about that, but also, hasn’t stopped me from having (responsible) fun.
… Unless you are talking about female ‘circumcision’, in which case…
… Yeah ok, you got a point with that one.
But if you are a dude, unless they really royally botched things up, then I’d maybe try some different kinds of stimulation, perhaps in different places, to uh… see what really gets your juices flowing.
Hey, just a suggestion: Maybe listen and understand somebody’s life experience before starting with the advice? This is about the same energy as telling ADHD people to just focus more, or depressed people to smile.
Just like brains, bodies differ. I’ve seen other men on Reddit and Lemmy state that their primary physical sensation comes from the foreskin. A gay friend of mine has met several men who are the same way. It’s not so crazy to believe that some women can orgasm from penetration alone, while many can’t, so maybe men’s bodies vary, too?
I’m glad to hear that your dick works after circumcision. Not everybody is so lucky.
Jumping Jesus on a Pogo-Stick! For someone that claims to have lost their best sensory receptors, you sure are a touchy little sonofa. I’d tell you to grow a thicker skin, but I’m sure you’ll take it the wrong way and cry about it.
Who’s touchy here?
Yay for foreskins! Or are we talking about the far more barbaric female circumcision?
I’m just commenting from personal experience.
Well, I suppose I am as well. Yay for foreskins! I’m glad my parents elected to leave mine right where it is, despite the societal pressures at the time.
Well the best sex happens when you and your partner both love each other so it might not be very feasible for them if they behave the same IRL as here.
